i think yes.
haven't always felt that way, but for the most part i do. i mean, it's such a gamble when buying a kid. it's a crap shoot. they won't be anything like you, and you can't change that. so be prepared. you never know where your new little critter came from.
yesterday i saw a documentary with dr. wayne dyer. he repeatedly talked about how important it is to know where you come from. it's a natural need.
if you don't find where you came from, you become obsessed with figuring it out at the expense of moving forward and living your life. that's how i lived until i met my
so to make it simple, if you're an AP, try your best to keep an open adoption. if it wasn't open, never stifle your child's dreams of finding her mother.
you won't win.