tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-794921837299728017.post8053832980597766027..comments2019-03-20T07:20:41.832-07:00Comments on everyone shut up, but me: how am i feeling today.....hmmmmmjgfhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16468824850753173606noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-794921837299728017.post-26888707928424220432011-05-21T22:11:16.493-07:002011-05-21T22:11:16.493-07:00Thank you for your voice JGF.
Lavender, paying to...Thank you for your voice JGF.<br /><br />Lavender, paying to adopt a child is a lot different than paying your hospital bill after giving birth. Adoption involves a whole 'nother family and their loss--likely largely due to issues of class and money. The only comparison there is with adoption and with giving birth in regards to this topic is if one were to look at it from one side only and ignore the adoptee and original family's reality in the same equation.<br /><br />In adoption, it's not just about the family that was built....it's about the one that fell apart too.<br /><br />A biologically raised person does not sit and wonder "why am I here and not there?"<br /><br />But we do. And when money is part of the answer to that question, it never feels good.<br /><br />And that's why there's just no comparison.The Declassified Adopteehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16726376584015902627noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-794921837299728017.post-65072507110764137472011-05-21T20:22:59.525-07:002011-05-21T20:22:59.525-07:00well, as an adoptee, what i hear is "you cost...well, as an adoptee, what i hear is "you cost xyz dollars."<br /><br />to be a coldhearted bitch about it, the bottom line is that i couldn't care less about a woman's infertility treatments or plane fares. in the end, a human being is the final product.<br /><br />i am one of those final products. therefore, i was purchased. the end.jgfhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16468824850753173606noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-794921837299728017.post-54173742518032040752011-05-21T20:15:30.978-07:002011-05-21T20:15:30.978-07:00Well, that super sucks that Sally felt that and to...Well, that super sucks that Sally felt that and told you that.<br /><br />What I heard a lot of the people saying, those who had endured infertility and ended up with a pregnancy or a child via adoption, was that the $$ were for services, not for a person. Even people who don't adopt have costs associated with bringing a baby into the world. But insurance covers most of it and they don't see all the zeros.<br /><br />Your viewpoint here is important, jgf, as it gets to the heart of what Claudia was saying in the post on billboard advertising. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings here.<br /><br />And I wish Sally had never said that to you. She's really missed out on someone special.Lori Lavender Luzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15394441222262940632noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-794921837299728017.post-40326159769156513732011-05-21T19:49:27.346-07:002011-05-21T19:49:27.346-07:00You're not worthless or less than anything. I ...You're not worthless or less than anything. I love you and so do lots of others. I know that doesn't make up for what you've lost, but I hope it gives you just a little bit of peace.aloha.girl59https://www.blogger.com/profile/00587084954505907544noreply@blogger.com